betterofallevils:

themodelcitizens:

health-over-vanity:

mylifeofloveandhate:

this means a lot, my boyfriend considers him self fat no matter what I tell him. One of my best guy friends thinks no one will date him because he is over weight which is the most un true thing every. All guys bodies are attractive.

This means a lot to me too because my boyfriend also thinks he’s fat regardless of what I say. The saddest day was when I watched him step on a scale and get sad at a number he saw. Spread the love. 

I’m fat and I approve this message

I approve this message also, but, themodelcitizens is NOT fat.

betterofallevils:

themodelcitizens:

health-over-vanity:

mylifeofloveandhate:

this means a lot, my boyfriend considers him self fat no matter what I tell him. One of my best guy friends thinks no one will date him because he is over weight which is the most un true thing every. All guys bodies are attractive.

This means a lot to me too because my boyfriend also thinks he’s fat regardless of what I say. The saddest day was when I watched him step on a scale and get sad at a number he saw. Spread the love. 

I’m fat and I approve this message

I approve this message also, but, themodelcitizens is NOT fat.

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Anonymous asked: Is there a non-manipulative way to tell your significant other that you cannot continue to accept the their lifestyle and ask them to change without abusing them? Of course an ultimatum is never the answer but at some point I think there has to be a decision of some kind. I am trying not to equate fat with health here, I think this goes for a partner who gambles, gets tattoos, smokes, treats their financials differently etc.

I was going to take you seriously until you mentioned you thought people shouldn’t get tattoos and now fuck that.

- E

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wtfisthinprivilege:

Thin people never get made fun of. Nope. These guys are totally texting me because they adoooreee how thin I am.

wtfisthinprivilege:

Thin people never get made fun of. Nope. These guys are totally texting me because they adoooreee how thin I am.

moon-ayes:

What is with this obsession over the “thigh gap”?

Way to skinny shame, really.
-mod D

Anonymous asked: "Thin privilege is being able to think that ”eat a cheeseburger!” is equivalent to the day in and day out pressure and abuse fat people get every day." Ugh, I'm just so tired of TITP thinking that ”eat a cheeseburger!” is the only and worst thing that thin people get to hear.

I agree. But that’s their go to claim when all else fails. They aren’t thin. They don’t know what thin people go through.

- Mod M

Anonymous asked: Today my TITP-following friend informed me that not finding someone attractive because of their weight isn't a preference, its a hate crime. Send help.

Ask them if they would be attracted to a fat person that matches with their sexual orientation.

-Mod V.

Thin Privilege is shopping where you want

thisisthinprivilege:

Thin privilege is being able to shop where you want, and not be mocked by the [thin] shop attendants in front of 3 of your best friends

It was a week before prom and I was doing the final try on for the most gorgeous dress. It was one I’d had my eye on for months - a beautiful peach silk dress with a stunning black belt. It perfectly suited my skin and my hair, and my friends agreed it was perfect.

Unfortunately a while back I broke up with my long term boyfriend. I was devastated, and gained a fair amount of weight as a result. I wasn’t thrilled, but I wasn’t starving myself, unhappy or putting my body through pain so I didn’t mind. I was happy with my body and this dress was absolutely sublime.

This meant that the dress didn’t fit me. I was mortified and totally put on the spot in front of my friends. When asked if there was a bigger size available, the shop attendant sneered at us and before she walked away told us to “try sears”. Excuse me? This was for prom, the biggest night this side of college and you don’t go to any effort to help me, and just palm me off to a lower class store because that’s all I deserve?

Thin privilege is being able to get flattering dresses in your size

Thin privilege is being treated with respect by shop assistants

Thin privilege is being able to shop anywhere and not relegated to “cheap” stores

I ended up starving myself to fit in the dress. It was awful and painful, and while it made me look like a rockstar, it was an awful, painful experience

Mean Girls anyone?

- E

I have to dress formally for casual situations due to my weight… Or else, I’m crow food!

thisisthinprivilege:

Like a lot of girls, I spend a good amount of my prep time in the morning putting on makeup and doing my hair. Making sure my clothes “Flatter me correctly”. Making sure my hair and makeup is “Perfect”. I HATE doing this, but I have to. I have to make sure that I’m “socially acceptable”.

And every morning, my fiance’, the man who thinks I’m beautiful no matter WHAT just stares on in total and utter confusion.
"Why are you putting on makeup? We’re just going to the store"
I simply reply;
"I honestly don’t feel like getting into a fight. I don’t feel like provoking superficial assholes. Today, I’d like to AVOID the trolls, thank you".

Why? Because me leaving the house without makeup starts FIGHTS. People yell at me, tell me to kill myself, and even try to beat me up just because of my size. People are openly rude to me, and if I’m not having the best of days, *I* could end up retaliating, which you know would result in jail time and having to go to a court that’s NOT ruling in my favor.

I have to ignore the fact that the only person I need to impress is already impressed regardless of my weight, what I wear, or ANYTHING. He thinks I’m beautiful because he loves me, and I’m forced to completely ignore that FOR MY OWN SAFETY (And his freedom, since he’s willing to start a fist fight with any man who trash talks me).
Not to mention, I, too, think I’m pretty… But I’ve been fat shamed and bullied to the point where I simply say;
"You gotta turn them on to survive out there".
Which should NOT be true; but it is. I think I look just fine without the makeup or the “fashionable” clothes, but without dressing up, I’m treated like shit. The shirt I wear can determine whether or not I’m verbally or psychically abused, and even then, it doesn’t always help. At best, when I try my best, I get a “At least she tries”. Like, they feel sorry for the fact that NO MATTER WHAT I DO, I’ll NEVER be “Beautiful” DESPITE THE FACT THAT I *KNOW* I ALREADY AM.



Thin privilege is being ALLOWED by society to leave your house to a casual situation without having to dress up to hide your “flaws”. You can leave without makeup and still be considered attractive, even if you’re currently undergoing an acne breakout. Oh, and you can wear whatever the heck you want, too.

Thin privilege is not having an every day fear that somebody will verbally and/or psychically abuse you due to your looks. Thin privilege is being able to feel safe because you KNOW you’re not a target to trolls, bullies, and bigots. You can COUNT on everyone being nice to you. Meanwhile, girls like me really have to just pray we don’t run into the wrong person.

Thin privilege is knowing that you’re beautiful, and having the world respect your self esteem (Or tell you you’re beautiful if you DON’T have that self-esteem). But girls like me aren’t allowed to love ourselves because we’re NOT “Beautiful”, and thus LOVABLE to everyone else. We have to try hard to impress people, anyway, even if we don’t want to. Even if we know our worth. Even if we don’t NEED their validation in our own minds, we still need their validation just to live a “Normal” LIFE and to get the basic respect we ALL deserve!



Girls with thin privilege wear makeup to stand out and receive attention.
But I? I wear makeup to fit in, and to NOT receive ANY attention.


Firstly, how does putting on make up somehow stop you from being fat? It’s good but it’s not THAT good.

Secondly, no one is going to get into a physical altercation with you because you are fat. It simply won’t happen to you.

Third, trolls? In the real world? Really? Are you twelve?

And in all seriousness, I just want to say. No, you’re right, I never have to be fearful of being assaulted out in public because of my body or my looks. Never. This thing you call thin privilege is actually a magical forcefield that repels anyone who comes too close to me. Actually, that was sarcasm, and wasn’t at all serious.

How about instead of attempting to trick people into thinking you’re being physically harmed for being a fat person, you start to attack the views of society that women are property of other people and everyone thinks they have a right to touch, comment on or assault them.

How about we do that?

- E

Anonymous asked: did you read the titp post about the boyfriend who told her gf to lose weight or he'd dump her? as horrible as that is, i can sort of sympathise with the bf too. she has put on almost 100 pounds since they started dating and claims that her eating habits haven't changed and her body is "happier" at that weight. idk if i was dating someone like that, i'd be worried and frustrated. though i refused to marry my fiance until he made efforts to stop smoking so maybe i'm just a bitch too lol.

crupus:

thatsnotthinprivilege:

Sorry but any manipulation like that is abuse.

You are kind of sort of saying you support that kind of abuse.

It is totally fine to not be attracted to someone if they gain a lot of weight and it is fine to leave them if that’s what you choose to do, but by giving them that ultimatum, you are demanding they change for you.

There are much safer ways to approach something like that, and there are much less manipulative ways to ask someone to modify their habits. Such as ‘it kind of bothers me when…’ or ‘I’m concerned because…’. Always remembering that if a person does not want to change when you approach them with these issues, you cannot continue to ask them about it, or bring it up.

- E

Basically those are just politically correct ways of saying you don’t like their fat, at least with the ultimatum you are being honest.

I wouldn’t want to be with someone who gained 100 pounds on a few years, that person clearly doesn’t care about their own body.

If I had a girlfriend that told me “yo honey you’re getting fat I hate your belly” I’d be like “alright”, and chose to either take care of my self or leave her. Can’t blame her for being honest or say she is “manipulating” me, specially if that manipulation leads me to being healthier.

No, they are non-abusive ways of approaching a sensitive subject. They are non abusive ways of demanding someone adjust their life because you take issue with how they choose to exist.

You are also associating thin with healthy and fat with unhealthy, which is inherently incorrect, for reasons I have stated many times. Someone did the same thing to me for other reasons not pertaining to my weight, and that was abusive.

And, in reality, all you’re saying is ‘my opinion is this and I’m male so you should really listen to me’.

No.

- E

Anonymous asked: did you read the titp post about the boyfriend who told her gf to lose weight or he'd dump her? as horrible as that is, i can sort of sympathise with the bf too. she has put on almost 100 pounds since they started dating and claims that her eating habits haven't changed and her body is "happier" at that weight. idk if i was dating someone like that, i'd be worried and frustrated. though i refused to marry my fiance until he made efforts to stop smoking so maybe i'm just a bitch too lol.

Sorry but any manipulation like that is abuse.

You are kind of sort of saying you support that kind of abuse.

It is totally fine to not be attracted to someone if they gain a lot of weight and it is fine to leave them if that’s what you choose to do, but by giving them that ultimatum, you are demanding they change for you.

There are much safer ways to approach something like that, and there are much less manipulative ways to ask someone to modify their habits. Such as ‘it kind of bothers me when…’ or ‘I’m concerned because…’. Always remembering that if a person does not want to change when you approach them with these issues, you cannot continue to ask them about it, or bring it up.

- E

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